" HER "

 " I am what I am " 

        From the moment of my birth, I've been told that I am very special. By the age of six, I had four eyes and a big mouth. I always told the truth. At ten, I was the tower among my friends, and a self - proclaimed self clown. Everyone called me Helga from "Hey Arnold". I am dreadfully lazy, extremely dedicated to being a successful person, very cheesy add that with some of my dancing abilities finished with my powerfully "lame" jokes and there you have it. ME. I'm proud to announce I am what I am.

        In today's society, we are constantly organized by what others think of us and what they perceive us to be. I'm happy to say what you think is none of business. The inconvenient truth is being yourself is cast aside in favor of popular mass opinions and behaviors. Is it really a curse to be ourselves? On that note, I will attempt to persuade you to believe in the most commonly used phrase in the history of advice. Be yourself. But first, what makes us individuals and if we are so different, why are we so similar?

        Executive coaches believe that, we are, who we are from our childhood experiences coupled up with your genetics makes up your confidence, temperament, perceptiveness and rational skills make you an individual. However our ability to communicate and behave universally brings us together as social beings. It's like being on the same planet but in different worlds.

        Upon choosing my topic, I was puzzled, as to why we develop as certain type of people and not as bald individuals. As kids, we want a constant diet words like "you are unique", "you are extraordinary, my boy". It is often tempting to fly like superman or moon walk with one glove. But as we grow older and wiser we come in search of our true identities, this is when we strive to accomplish perpetuated by mass media and the detrimental mind of the crowd.

        Just like everyone, I had my fair share of rejection and teasing. Psychologist Abraham Maslow suggests that the need of acceptance is a fundamental human motivation. The irony is social neuroscientist believe that 4 out of 5 thoughts we have are related to others. This shows that we are trying to please or be everyone else except ourselves. Consequently, powers our ability to stand up for what we believe in, restricts our colourful personalities and leaves us conforming to society. What's worst is that it has created this ideal image of perfection, Barbie. Young women are under pressure to gain the ultimate Barbie. Young women are under pressure to gain the ultimate Barbie figure. We have to understand that we are real and perfect beings not ageless dolls! I can closely relate to this, no not with Barbie but to have Marilyn Monroe's looks. Well I've tried and I failed, obviously, eventually I realized not having beautiful features that most guys love, but I'm not like most girls. I'm me. We must realize that following a fad or a trend to achieve this snapshot of perfection is impossible.

        Throughout this crazy journey, I learnt that the ultimate oration does not exist but a unique one does so this is me in the imperfect words. This is me accepting my inability to make good jokes but accepting my painfully lame ones, accepting my natural talent of being very lazy yet celebrating my inner desire of Oscar Wild, "Be yourself because everyone else is taken."

" A woman is like a teabag - you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water. " 

~ Eleanor Roosevelt